I saw a post on Facebook where a Mom found out her son had "put his hands on someone's daughter" so she made him use his birthday money to buy her gifts, and also write a heartfelt apology letter as well. My first, gut reaction was straight up applause. She not only nipped it in the bud, but she didn't make excuses and coddle him. I feel like kids nowadays are coddled way too much....but that could be just me.

 Anyway, there were a lot of comments praising her, but also a lot saying it could teach him that hitting girls is ok as long as you buy things for them after. Which, has some validity, I wont deny that........but.........he's a kid. Neither you or I have any idea what kind of conversation took place before and after that picture/post was done. I'm assuming that since she took the initiative to punish him in that way, there was also a conversation had about how it is wrong to hit girls. Really, nobody should be hitting anybody, but that's besides the point.

It bothers me how people will focus on the wrong thing then just blow it up. I bet there are a lot of parents that would just say "stop that" or some sort of verbal slap on the wrist. But not that mom. Nope, she went farther and I say good job!! She took the time, the patience, and the whining that probably came with having him buy that stuff to really teach him a lesson. One that will probably stick with him his whole life. You never know, that one action she did could be the one that he will always remember and will never hit another person in his life.....all because of that one time his mom made him buy a girl gifts out of his birthday money. To a kid, birthday money is like gold. My girls LOVE that they have their own birthday money. They're not allowed to use it, but they know it's theirs. I'm pretty sure it would break their hearts of Grant or I made them use it for something besides what they wanted. It would for sure have a lasting impression.

Moral of my little story....quit focusing on all the negative things a parent does. She did the best she knew how and that is a hell of a start! Don't tear her down because of what someone else did. Lift her up because she tried, and that's a lot more than some people do!!