Yay! Cat's out of the bag!

Been waiting to do this post until I made the announcement to everyone in person and also on social media.  But it's so crazy that we're expecting another bundle of joy!  I think back, and it seems like such a long time ago that I was dreaming of the day I would start to have kids.  And now I'm pregnant with what is going to probably be our last child.  When Grant and I talked about having kids, I said I wanted a big family.  I was talking like 5 kids.  He...not so much.  He said that 3 was his max.  I'm ok with that since it still makes for a pretty big family.  I've always said I didn't want too much of an age difference between each child.  I grew up with brothers that were close in age to me, and I loved it.  The biggest age gap was between me and my little brother; 6 years.  Izzy will be 4 when this one comes a long and I didn't want any more than 5 years between the last two kids.  I'm really hoping this one is a boy.  It's kind of our last chance to get a boy.  If the pregnancy itself can be any indication (and I know it's not always right), this one could be.  Where both pregnancies with the girls were about the same...like I had the same symptoms, this one is different.  With the girls, I didn't really have very many cravings, and my senses weren't that heightened.  This one, I'm having cravings left and right, plus my sense of smell is so much stronger.  But I know that doesn't necessarily mean it'll be a boy.  The old wives tale about if the baby has a full head of hair, I'd get heartburn turned out to be false when I was pregnant with one of the girls.  They both came out with full heads of hair, and I only had heartburn with one of them.  I'm not that far along, but I already am making sure I write things down for the baby book.  Not going to buy one until I know the sex of the baby.  Just like with the girls, I have to know.  I'm such a planner that I need to know what color clothes and such I need to get.  A great thing about having them so close is I don't need to buy any of the big toys, like high chair, bouncer, jumper, swing..ect.  We didn't get rid of any of that after the girls.  It's a good thing, because we hadn't planned on having another baby quite yet.  We weren't doing the "if it happens, it happens" mentality this time.  We're still really excited and happy about it, though.  We don't really think there's the perfect time to have a baby.  We've always said you're never fully ready for a baby, you just have to jump into it.  We mean more that you're financially stable and stable in your relationship too, not that just because you want a baby, but you cant afford to put food on the table or that your relationship is rocky at best...to just go ahead and have one.  We're not quite where we wanted to be yet, but that's ok!  This one may have come a little earlier than we anticipated, but it's already so loved!

A few thoughts about hitting girls

I was watching "Daddy's Home" a while ago, and in one scene, both the step dad and real dad are trying to teach the son how to defend himself against a 4th grade bully.  A little farther along into the movie, it is revealed that the bully is actually a girl.  Then everyone gets all up in arms over hitting a girl.  Now, I'm a girl, and it is a little surprising to me that I actually think this way.  My question is, why is it not ok to hit a girl if they're the ones throwing punches first?  It's been passed down through generations that it is never ok to hit a girl.  Boys, yes throw down.  But girls have always been a different story.  It came around (I assume) when girls were universally believed to be the weaker sex and couldn't really fend for themselves, and they needed a man to take care of them.  So at that time, yes I get why.  But now?  Not so much.  Women have made huge strides in becoming equal to men, and there are so groups out there to make women equal to men in every way.  But this seems to be one thing that no woman has ever come forward and really said "you know what, it's ok to hit a woman.  If she's being a bitch and deserves it, then throw down."  I don't feel that women should really pick and choose on what issues they're equal to men.  It should be an all or nothing deal.  But then again, maybe something like that will always be just a thought, and nothing more.