If you need "me time", tell me...dont lie.

One night, I was scrolling mindlessly through Facebook, and reading those "31 crazy wedding stories" and the like.  I came across one that was titled something like "lies spouses tell each other".  I clicked on it, cuz hey I'm curious!  One of them that caught my eye was that the father sometimes went to the bar before going home so that he could have some wind down time before he transitioned into being "daddy" and told his wife that he had to work late.  To me, that's just mean and a little selfish.  Now, I get needing that "me time".  Being a stay at home mom, I get very little of it and sometimes I just need to be by myself.  But I would never keep that away from Grant.  He knows when I need to just decompress.  If the wife is a stay at home mom, chances are she's waiting for him to get home because she's been on duty all day and needs some help.  For anyone that thinks that all we do is sit around all day eating bon bons, watching TV, and getting in a good couch dent...um no.  I'm usually go go go from the moment I wake up.  Not very often do I get to sit and watch something I want.  If anything, it's always kid shows.  And if I am watching my show, then I still have two toddlers crawling all over me, literally.  If I were to find out that Grant was telling me he had to work late, only to find out that he's been sitting at a bar for a few hours, I'd be mad.  Not only because he thinks he needs to lie to me (which we have never done with each other), but because it is very unfair to me to just not come home.  If he needed time away that bad, text me and tell me.  I've told him many times that he needs to get out with the boys.  I've been really working on being ok when he goes out with the boys, too.  It's not often, and while I would like some time too, I know that he is telling me his needs and I need to respect them.  I hope that not a lot of men do this to their wives, because in my opinion, it's not exactly fair.