I was reading a "15 Things Pregnant Women Need To Stop Doing" type of article on Facebook (I know, what a surprise lol) and there were a lot of "stop comparing themselves to other moms" and "posting their weekly update on the baby" type things, which I know are serious, but those are in almost every one of those types of lists. I know I'm guilty of things that are on those lists, but one of the ones I've been waiting to see is never on there; the "quit being a bitch to everyone, especially you're significant other" one. I didn't get very hormonal with Kensi and Izzy, but with Baby Boy, I'm all sorts of hormonal. There have been times where I've snapped at Grant or something the girls did made me way more upset than it would have usually. Thank God that Grant is very understanding and isn't holding it against me. I know when the crazy is coming on, and for the most part, I can tamp it down and calm myself before it comes out. But when I cant, and I know I'm being irrational, believe me I feel really bad afterwards. But what I have never and will never do is use being pregnant as an excuse to be a bitch to Grant or anyone else just because. It doesn't give women a pass to be total snots and turn into mega divas. I couldn't imagine waking Grant up at 3am to go get me something to eat; whether from the fridge or the store. To me, that's just ludicrous! I would never ridicule him for how he made a meal as long as it was edible, and I sure as shit don't expect him to make it just so either. I'm happy as hell that he made supper or lunch, or whatever it may be. Even when he brings me a snack when I didn't ask because he knows I'm hungry (because let's face it I always am) I get super sappy and lovey. I mean seriously, if I want a sandwich, then I'll go and make it myself. The only way I'd ask Grant to do it (and notice I said ask, not make) is if my back was killing me or there was something that was making it really hard to get up. Otherwise, I'm pregnant.....not disabled.
There is nothing preventing women from getting up off the couch and getting things themselves. I don't expect him to get everything for me, or all of the sudden do all the housework either. I still do the laundry and make sure the house is clean and make supper almost every night. Grant works really hard, and some days he's had a really long day. Why would I want to pile more stuff on him when I'm perfectly capable of doing it like I have been?
So women, if you're pregnant like me, and you find yourself doing this....KNOCK IT THE FUCK OFF!!! Yes, you are carrying his/her (if surrogate or gay) child, and yes that is tiring, but it doesn't give you the right to turn into some obnoxious, overbearing, demanding shrew to your man. Make sure you tend to his needs too. It's not all about you, you didn't climb on top of yourself and get pregnant. It's his child as well as yours, remember that. Do not demean him or demand some ridiculous thing from him, and for all that is friggin holy....make sure he knows that you appreciate him. Your relationship isn't put on hold because you're pregnant. You still have to care for it like you are caring for the child inside of you.
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